Everything Is Neutral, Whether It’s Good Or Bad Is Attached To What You Think
‘Is the glass half empty or half full?’ is a common example showing that sometimes what matters the most is usually how we perceive events and objects instead of what actually happens. If it rains on a holiday, you can either think it is bad because it ruins your day or you can think it is good because you can do something different. This wisdom will make your life much happier and less stressful.
Worrying Never Fixes Anything
Sometimes we just worry too much. In fact, worrying never fixes anything or it may even make things worse.
Imagine you woke up late but you had a flight to catch. What’d be the first thing that popped up in your mind? Feeling a bit nervous and a bit worried is normal but if … Read More »
Why Reading Word By Word Is A Bad Strategy To Better Understand An Idea
You may not realize it, but we all read very often in our daily life. We always want to go through all the documents faster at work; we just want to find out the main point of all the long letters and notes from the government or any kinds of organizations quickly; even when we read for leisure, we’d probably be traveling on the bus and just want to finish the current chapter as soon as possible. Yes I get it, you want to read faster without missing the gems.
But is speeding up your word-by-word reading what you should do? The answer is definitely no.
Reading word by word slows you down from processing the idea.
When we read, our eyes normally stop on each word. We call this fixation. It is … Read More »
Two Common Fatal Mistakes People Make In Their Relationships That Ruin Their Lives
You’re in a relationship and you really want to stay that way. But after you commit, things start to go wrong and before you know it, you’re sitting heartbroken in your room crying. Sound familiar? About 40-50% of married couples get divorced in the United States today. So what can you do to make sure you avoid adding to the dismal number? For starters, avoid these two common fatal mistakes.
Mistake Number 1: Forming a relationship because you feel you need it, not because you want it
Many people confuse need with want. When you need someone, you may be staying because you’re afraid to be alone, for financial security, or because you aren’t sure you can find anything better. When you want someone, no matter what happens, no matter how … Read More »
One Simple Chart To Find Out Your Leadership Style And Let Your Charisma Shine
Everyone has their own leadership style but most are not aware of their own approach of leading. Even if you think you’re very good at leading, you probably don’t understand your own leadership approach much. When you can figure out the pros and cons of your leading style, you peak your leadership skills. No one is perfect, so is any kind of leading style.
Some leadership types work best in specific occasions, while not really well in others. For example, leaders who put a lot of emphasis on the vision can get team members to achieve greater things by providing them a clear direction; yet if the vision is a bit far from reality, it can cause low team morale.
No matter what your management style is, you need to understand your own strengths … Read More »
Life Is Too Short. Not Every Book Is Meant To Be Finished. Learn About This Rule
Many people think that once we buy a book, we should finish reading it. When we can’t, we feel kind of guilty. And that unfinished task would stay in our mind for a long time. This is called sunk cost fallacy, which means your decisions are based on previously invested resources. The more you invest in something, the harder it is to quit it.
But think about it, if you pre-pay 1,000 dollar to dine at a restaurant, while it serves you a dish with a number of insects in it, would you stay or leave?
Likewise when you get a crappy book, or a book that just doesn’t suit you, what’s the point of holding on to it?
So how to decide if a book is worth reading or not? “The Rule … Read More »
Argue With Your Partner Over Small Things Often? Science Says It's A Good Sign For Your Relationship
Argue With Your Partner Over Small Things Often? Science Says It’s A Good Sign For Your Relationship
Relationships aren’t always easy. Arguments and disagreements are expected when two people with different life experiences, views and perspectives come together. But how often are we told that arguing with our partner means the relationship is doomed? That disagreeing often is a sign that you just aren’t compatible?Well, if you find you bicker a lot with your loved one there may be a saving grace – science says it is, in fact, a great indicator for your relationship and here’s how.
Love Isn’t An Easy Street
As much as love is portrayed as romantic and against-all-odds fantastic, the reality is that relationships and marriage takes work to cultivate and bloom. There’s so much psychological research based on why marriages fail but not nearly as much asking … Read More »
This Quality Of Your Man Can Predict Whether Your Marriage Will Last Or Not
If you’re looking for something serious and don’t want to contribute to divorce statistics, besides all those boxes that you’d like to tick about your future husband, this is one that you should pay especial attention to. That is if you want to be a little more sure about your husband than you are buying your avocados.
If you’re looking for a long-term partner, you need to look for someone who’s used to long-term devotion and endurance in different areas of life, not just romantic love. When approximately half of American marriages end up in divorce, in our culture of instant gratification, that’s no surprise.According to recent studies, the passion and determination to pursue long-term goals is a powerful predictor of whether someone will drop out in the … Read More »
Are You Satisfied with Your Relationship or Settling for Less? Take This Test to Find Out
Have you ever wanted a relationship to work so badly that you ignore all of the signs of its inevitable decline? Don’t feel bad. While it may seem completely evident to an outsider what they would do in your situation, it’s a totally different situation for the person living it. But since you’re here, you’re probably feeling to need to take a step back and get some perspective on your relationship. That’s good!
Try taking the test below and find out your relationship score:
Grims Questionnaire Of Relationship Satisfaction
Apart from the test, a little soul searching is important in determining whether you are where you need to be in life and what you can do to improve.
Why Do People Settle For Less?
Why would someone settle for someone who … Read More »
6 Cooking Hacks That Turn You Into A Master Chef
Do you love to cook but find that some things completely elude you? Sometimes the things that seem like they should be easy can be a source of frustration. Maybe you cook things a little too long or can’t get things to quit sticking.
Don’t give up. Even the best cooks need a little help now and then to make things easier. Here are 6 cooking hacks to help you out:
1. Prevent pasta from sticking together without the oil.
A lot of people think adding oil to the water before you boil pasta is the way to keep it from sticking. It can, but it also makes the pasta sauce slide right off. Using the right amount of water, 1 liter per 100 grams of dry pasta and 1.5 liters for 100 grams … Read More »
If You Understand These 2 Important Principles Of Love, Your Relationships Will Be Much Better
Every day, a marriage or a relationship falls apart. Sometimes we can point to the reason why: he cheated, she lied, he’s irresponsible, she’s too high-maintenance. Sometimes, though, a relationship falls apart and we don’t know why. We think it must be our fault, that we chose the wrong partner and our incompatibility was the cause for the failure. What if finding out that two important principles of love will improve every relationship you will ever have? What if your relationship all boils down to two important things: speaking the same love language with each other, and understanding where you are within the five stages of love?
Speaking the Same Love Language
If you don’t know what a love language is, then this book is for you. Dr. … Read More »